Monday, July 28, 2014

Mean Mommy

Do you ever feel like you are a mean mommy? I am the happiest person you will ever meet. Very laid back type parenting and a very go with the flow attitude. Well, lately I have been losing my patience more than I like to admit and it eats at me. All day. Every day.

I have never been the yelling type or even "mean" but I feel like I am now. I don't know what went wrong. Maybe the third child did me in? I'm not sure. I'm not a bad mom. I am a very good one and everyone knows that but I still can't help but feel like a mean mommy when I accidentally snap at one of the three. The whining and crying had been OOC lately and it frustrates me, just like it does everyone else. I am learning to deal with it in a different way but sometimes I just lose my cool and will snap back at them or mock them. Which in every single case never works. And I know that but what makes us moms go off the edge sometimes? I hate hearing my mean voice. I hate hearing the words I never said I would and most of all I hate looking myself in the mirror after handling a situation by wanting to scream instead of just sitting down and talking it out.

Patience is truly a virtue. It is something we all have to learn and sometimes most people don't learn how to be patient until we are middle aged. I am a patient person but when the whining starts and doesn't stop makes me impatient. But I have found a way to deal with it the way I want to and need to as a mom:

  • Close your eyes. 
  • Count to 10. 
  • Take three deep breaths.
  • Sit with your children and simply ask "whats wrong?"
  • If they still cry simply say "I can't understand you when you are crying. Can you talk to me like a big girl/boy?"
  • If they still cry or whine I finally say "OK, you know we aren't suppose to cry or whine in our house. Do we need to put our whines and cries into a bucket?" I tried this today and it actually worked.
  • Finally, after they've told you what was wrong then fix the problem. We are the parents so we CAN fix it. 
  • Reward them for behaving like a big kid.
  • Reward yourself for not wanting to run and lock yourself in the bathroom. 
Having three babies under 2.5 means I deal with a lot of this. They have all started the fun fighting stage (NOT) too and its hard. But as a parent we can't  run away from all of this like we want to sometimes or most times. Just breathe and count to 10 because in the end it was all be alright and they'll do something amazing to you or to their sibling that will make you immediately forget why you were so angry with them. 

Mean mommy be gone. You're not welcome here. I am not that person and I know a lot of you can relate. I wanted to post this to remind myself to just breathe and count to 10. 

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Another one of those...

A post to catch up. I realized I havwent posted a lot of the happenings around here lately and I want to do that before getting back into the regalar posting. I am so behind.

I finally opened up my Etsy show a few months ago. I'm starting to get some orders off there and on IG so Ive been too busy to post anything on the blog lately! Don't you hate when that happens? I love blogging and its our life journal, so I need to do better about it. I sell everything from Banners to vinyl decals, and from cupcake wrappers to cake toppers! That's exactly why I named the shop "Junk by Jenn". Fitting, right? Anyways, you can check out my shop HERE! Ill have a button on the side of the blog soon!

A couple of weeks ago we took the kids to one of our friends house. They have sheep, a pond and chickens! The kids were in heaven! Jocelynn and JP weren't too fond of the sheep but Maddie thought they were hilarious and kept "bbaaaa-ing" at them!


This girl and her makeup. She cracks me up! She had to put on some lip gloss before going to church a couple Sundays ago. She actually does a good job putting it on until she proceeds to put the second coat on and then she gets it all on the cheeks and in her hair. Wonderful. I do love how girly my first born is though;)


Have I ever told y'all how big of a clown my little boy is? I've always said he was going to be such a character when he grew up because he was so funny as a baby. I was right. This boy makes me laugh every.single.day. He has this thing lately where he gives "cwazy eyes". It is the funniest thing in the world and oh how those eyes do look crazy when he does it. Love my little clown.


Then my last born. My baby girl. She is something fierce. She is the best baby but also the meanest little thing I've ever seen. She acts more like a first child than third (second). She wants what she wants when she wants it. There is no changing her mind. There is no telling her to say please for anything because she is so impatient. She becomes angry and we call it the "angry baby". She shakes her fists, head and eventually whole body while screaming and it is hilarious. I love her so much but oh how I have revenge coming from this girl. She gives me a hard time and I couldn't love her and her personality anymore. 




I had a few hard weeks dieting. As in, I didn't diet at all. I was sick of it and just wanted to eat bad for a while. I think its ok to give yourself a little time after working so hard. I'm back on the diet/healthy bandwagon and hopefully will say bye to these last 10 lbs that have been hanging around. I went to cross fit with my friend, Jill, last week and couldn't walk until today! Ive been drinking fruit smoothies for my lunch and eating a lot healthier. 10 lbs, you are no longer welcome here and I would like you gone by August. Please and Thank you. 


Matt had a day off a few weeks ago and he wanted to get out of the house and take the kids somewhere. I was just glad to get out of the house so I didn't care where we went. We ended up at good ole Chuck-E-Cheeses. There was barely anybody in there, which was awesome. We had fun letting the kids ride and play games and got an awesome family picture! 

Don't you just love when the photos turn out like this? I know I do because these are the ones that we will never ever forget. 

I think it is safe to say we all enjoyed eating our pizza!






I took this picture of Maddie while fishing one day. Does she not look just like Popeye? I put it on IG with a Popeye caption!!


And just because...


Hope everyone is having a wonderful week!

Wednesday, July 16, 2014

A Quick Trip to the Beach!


I bet you've been wondering where I have been!? Well, we have been busy with these kids (which we don't mind at the least) and then decided to go to the beach last week to see Moomoo and Pops! We had planned on going from Friday- Tuesday but Matt's vacation days were denied so we will have to go for a longer trip soon. My dad was in town on Wednesday so he picked me and the babies up at my house and we went ahead to the beach with pops! Matt was going to try and come down after work on Friday and if wouldn't have made it, I would have brought my moms car back. See? We had everything planned out. 

I was kind of nervous about traveling with JP being just potty trained. He did unbelievable. We stopped twice and both times are because he told us he needed to "peepee weal quick". One of the stops was on the side of the road because there were no gas stations around but when you got to go, you gotta go. Pops had the honor of taking JP the last stop. I will tell you something funny and because I don't want to forget this, but when I took him the first time we were in a nasty gas station bathroom. I just held him up while he went so he wouldn't come in contact with the toilet. After he went, I flushed the toilet with my foot and explained to him that's how you flush toilets when they are dirty. Well, the rest of the weekend he flushed every single toilet with his foot! It was the funniest thing ever!



My mom had everything setup so nice for us. She went out of her way really. They recently just moved from their PH to a new home. It is so cute and cozy. I think my mom could make a dumpster feel like home though. She has an amazing gift for decorating. We took a tour when we first arrived and looked at everyone's rooms. The twins room was adorable. And mom had the BIG girl and boy beds. I looked at mom and told her "There is absolutely no way they are going to sleep in those!" I made sure we had a crib and a pac-n-play out just in case but I was willing to try the big beds just to see how they did. UMMMMM.. yeah they slept in them. All.Night. I couldn't believe it and I was so proud of them! They could tell they had accomplished something too because they were just laughing so hard at each other when they woke up. Maybe its time to get big beds at home?? Am I ready for this?? My babies are growing up so fast!



I think the twins would live in the ocean or right beside it if they could. They love it. They call it the "big water" and talk about it constantly. We went out there one evening when the tide was low. It was perfect for little shorties like mine. The tide was low so there was a big sand bar they could run around on and just be kids. They ran from the waves, chased the birds, hunted for sea shells and played with their pops. My mom and Madelynn came down after she had started dinner and Maddie actually liked it a lot better this time! I was so excited! She didn't even mind the sand. Honestly, I couldn't blame anyone for not liking sand. It isn't any fun to get out of body parts, shoes, clothes and cars.


I absolutely love this picture of my dad and the twins. It tells you everything you need to know about their relationship with him. Jocelynn thinks Pops is a hoot. A great and funny man. JP is just as crazy as he is and the two of them together only cause trouble. But they all love each other so much and it melts my heart to see my kids love my daddy as much as I do. 





 Splash Pad time! We took all of them to the splash pad at the Destin Commons one day! The kids weren't all that interested in it. I thought they would have fun in it since they had never played with a splash pad before but nope. They literally could have cared less. Maddie (of course) got in on some splash pad action but me and pops had to stay out there to get the twins to play in it.


They were more interested in the choo-choo train that was right beside us. They love trains! After we left the commons we went to the Boardwalk in Destin and walked around before sitting down at Harry T's for lunch. My mom met us at lunch. I was feeling a little exhausted and stressed out so when my mom got there I just broke down into tears. I just wanted to be alone for a minute. A break for just ONE minute. I rarely get those at home and I just wanted one since I knew my parents are more than capable of making that happen for me. After a yummy lunch, my mom took all three kids home with her. Destin is about a 45 minute drive from where they live so they all napped in the car. My dad stayed with me and we went shopping! He didn't understand why I had or was crying. I don't think anyone will ever understand unless you are in my position. Three kids, 2.5 and under, all day, every day. It tends to make you a little nuts sometimes when you have no help. I love it but it is hard some days.

Matt got to the beach on Friday evening! He misses us like crazy when we are gone so I knew he would come. He loves his family and I love him for that. We went to the beach Saturday morning and had some fun in the sun. Built sand castles, played in the water and ran from the big waves. It was perfect. Maddie was taking a nap when we first got out there. I feel like I didn't take any pictures of that child. She is such a moo-moos baby and loves being with her moo moo any chance she gets. Her and mom came down after she woke up from her nap but me and Matt left to go snapper fishing!





We let a few get off but we did get two! Matt caught one pretty good one too! The worst thing about deep sea fishing to me is getting out of the "bass-fisherman way" of doing things. You aren't suppose to hook the fish or jerk the bait. Nothing. All you do is reel and its so frustrating because when you do those things you've known all your life it causes the salt water fish to get off somehow. Oh well, we live and learn and maybe next time we will do even better.


An H&M store opened up at the Commons in Destin and it was AMAZING! Ive always heard about them but have never been. I think the closest one to me is about 3 hours away. It was so inexpensive but feels like great quality clothing! Here are some goodies I found!! 


I actually got the cowboy boots on the Boardwalk but I love them so I had to throw a picture of them in here!



 How cute are the overalls?!?!?!

Ive been following Shop Ella Madison for a little over a year now. I saw last year that she had opened up a store front in Destin so I went by to show some love and support! She has the cutest clothes and she might be the cutest and sweetest person ever! Stop by there if you get a chance or visit her website!





Monday, July 7, 2014

Our 4th of July Weekend

First of all, Happy Birthday 'Merica!!

We've had a wonderful weekend! A long weekend but it was wonderful. Matt ended up being off work on Friday, which usually never happens, so we were able to celebrate the 4th as a family! We started the day out on the lake! We live on Lay Lake in Alabama and I absolutely love it! We rode around on the pontoon for a while and then stopped by Matt's Uncle Terri's house. They were having a big bar-b-Que and had a swimming pool. We all had a blast!


Madelynn usually isn't crazy about interacting with anyone while riding on the boat. She will usually just lay there and go to sleep but she wanted to help daddy drive this day!






Every time I tell JP to "cheese" he makes this face. That little boy is such a clown;)

Uncle Terri had one of those out of ground pools and it was the perfect size for my little shorties. Jocelynn got right in it and discovered that she could touch her feet to the bottom. She thought that was the coolest thing ever. She stayed in there the whole time we were there. Just jumping up and down and having a bawl. 



I can't even explain to you how much fun Maddie had. This girl has fun anywhere she goes and even if its not the funnest thing ever, she still makes a party out of any situation. I would definitely say this one is mine;) 



Bring out the water guns!! The water guns were fun for everyone! The twins kept squirting everyone and thought it was hilarious.

Then, I noticed Maddie had stolen someones coke. And yes, I took a picture before taking it away because it was so funny. She had already had half of it so why not let her have the rest at that point, right? Call me a bad mom if you may but these days its just hard to keep up with what everyone is doing and a coke never hurt anyone every now and then.






We took all the kiddos home around 2 to get a quick nap before getting back out on the boat to go watch fireworks. We laid them all down and not one of them put up a fight. Me and Matt cooked some ribs while they napped and I might have eaten five of them. They were delicious.

We had to wake all of the kids up around 4:30. They weren't thrilled about it but we got them dressed, went by the store, and loaded everything in the boat. We went back to Uncle Terri's until sunset then headed towards Cedar Creek to watch the firework show. We had so much fun. Good friends, great food and a beautiful view. I'm glad I was able to get some candid shots of our night. 


It is not until you have children that you can really appreciate all the little things. Like fireworks? I have never been that crazy about them but watching their little faces light up about it was amazing. They make me see the world in a whole new way and I love it. They are showing me things I never knew how to appreciate. 



I might have indulged in one or two glasses of wine but we all had a blast and I'm glad we let the kids stay up past their bedtime that day. They wouldn't have been able to see any of it with a 7:30 bedtime. Its ok to get off schedule every now and then. Except we did pay for that Saturday, they were incredibly fussy. But I am glad they got to witness fireworks and show me just how beautiful they really are too.

I hope all of you had a wonderful 4TH of JULY!!!!!!
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